As a working mom it gets hectic juggling work and family responsibilities. A recent survey from Care.com reveals the benefits of being a working mom. According to the survey, 78 percent of working moms say they enjoy being a working parent. The survey, which polled 1,000 women with children under 18, found that not only are working moms content with their position, most don’t think their work inhibits their ability to be a good parent, and vice versa.
Care.com talked to five working moms and came up with a list of 12 tips for working moms. Personally, I wish I would have viewed this list about 15 years ago! I guess we all learn one triumph and or mistake at a time.
Tips for Staying Organized
- Get a good planner. Having a plan is key. From making daily lists of meetings and tasks, to putting your husband’s and kids’ schedules in a shared online calendar, to planning out your meals for the week, having a plan where you can see it not only helps you stay organized, but it gives you an idea of when you’ll need to enlist some help.
- Make dinner the night before. Try to regularly cook the night before so that at 5:30PM the next day, all you have to do is re-heat. Another idea? Make friends with your slow cooker.
- Have a back up. Every working mother should find at least 3 different people (friends, family, neighbors, etc.) that are willing to be a back up in times of emergencies. After all, you never know when someone might be sick or if your current sitter cancels.
Tips for Conquering the Guilt
- Present some ground rules at work. A working mom of three suggests telling your boss that you need to make it to all school functions, no matter what. Making it clear that your family is a priority from the start can help open up conversations down the road.
- Don’t go to the mall/park at lunch. While getting out of the office for lunch may be a welcome treat, seeing those stay-at-home/on-maternity-leave-moms enjoying their days with the kids just adds to your working mom guilt.
- Focus on the positive. No matter how many hours you put in at the office, chances are you’re plagued with guilt. Accept the fact that your children still recognize you as their mother and love you as such. You can take part in assuring that “the village” supports you in this as well.
Tips for Staying Sane
- Turn to other working moms. Having a network of people who understand your situation can be a great source of sanity.
- Be flexible. The most important piece of advice for working moms is to be prepared for anything. No matter how much you plan, something will come up that you weren’t expecting (“practice will be canceled…someone will puke!”), so be prepared to ditch your plan — and most importantly — go with the flow.
- Slow down. Take an extra five minutes to pick up a latte or call a friend. Even something as small as a longer shower can help you feel recharged.
Tips for Maintaining Relationships
- Thank your village. All of the working moms we interviewed agree that thanking the people you depend on is crucial. Treat your nanny well, pay the babysitter well, accept help from your family with a smile, and as often as you can, find special ways to show your thanks to the people who help your household run.
- Check in on your kids. When you’re away from your kids for so much of the day, Langston says she believes in sending a text, email or even making a quick phone call to her kids. Not only will it brighten their day, but Langston says it makes her feel more connected.
- Make some memories. Langston suggests taking a surprise vacation day once a quarter, if your work allows. Spend the day with the kids, rekindle that relationship and make some fun memories!